Who Cares Who’s Wrong?

When having a disagreement with your spouse, focus on the solution rather than on who is right and who is wrong. Dr. Robert Solley, a clinical psychologist who works with couples in San Francisco, CA, asserts that when we seek to determine who is right and who is wrong, we create a winner and a loser and when “differences become contests of right and wrong…the essential feelings of safety and comfort for which we seek to be in relationship get replaced with feelings of helplessness, mistrust, inadequacy and pain.” People in successful marriages realize that focusing on finding a solution is more important than trying to prove their spouse wrong.

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About Lori Mitton

Lori Mitton is a licensed clinical psychotherapist (MA, LLP) specializing in marriage and family therapy. She is co-founder of Permanent Passionate Partnership.