Keep your priorities straight
When your children are young, set a bedtime for them that allows you and your spouse to have the alone time that you desperately need. Simply explain to your children that sometimes mommy and daddy need their time together just as they sometimes have a special day with mommy or daddy. Instruct your children that they must knock and be invited in before opening your bedroom door. A lock (or a hook and eye) on your door can do wonders for uninhibited physical intimacy and may allow you to avoid awkward “how are we going to explain this?” moments.
Ask yourself who is first on your list of priorities…your spouse or your children?